| 8 Tips for Living in a New City While Pregnant |
Moving to a new city can be extremely difficult. However, moving to a new city and being an expectant mother at the same time is arduous X 100 and a completely different experience. Shortly after getting married, my husband and I moved to Cleveland for his residency (add that on top living in a new city while pregnant) and became expectant parents. Obviously, he doesn’t waste any time. If I could describe the experience in 3 words it would be tasking, emotional, and lonely. Now, this article isn’t supposed to depress you, in fact I hope it’s helpful. For all of my expectant mothers in a new city I have some tips that can better prepare you for what will truly be an enlightening experience.
1. Find A Doctor
I know that you might have a whole bunch of moving headaches to tackle, but finding a doctor is more important. It can take weeks, sometimes months to get through to a doctor and find an OBGYN that meets your criteria. My husband and I moved to Cleveland, which has one of the highest rates of infant mortality in America so I was extremely picky about finding the right OBGYN. Even though, in many cases there is no way to prevent SIDS or certain cases of infant mortality and it involves the mother more than the physician, I was still nervous and picky about picking a physician. Ask for recommendations and make sure you have your medical records.
2. Find Friends
I moved to a city where I knew absolutely no one. On top of that my husband is a resident physician so I barely see him as well and that has been difficult as a newlywed too. I recommend finding a group of friends and socializing with them to get your mind off of the stressful move. A lot of ways to do this as an expectant mother are yoga, pilates, and expectant mother classes. You can go to the classes specifically for pregnant women and build you a group of friends in your new city. Some may even become lifelong friends and how cool would it be to have your kids grow up together?!
3. Stay Active
When I say “stay active”, I simply mean making time for a bit of exercise to get your mind off of your anxieties. You don’t have to compare yourself to the pregnant fitness Instagram models in the gym all of the time with perfect photo shopped pictures. Walking daily, pilates, cycling, or whatever exercise you like best will be helpful. Whenever you think about binge eating to get rid of your anxiety, go for a walk instead, you aren’t supposed to eat for 2. And yes, I know this is easier said than done!
4. Wait on baby shopping
You are already trying to unpack and get settled; the last thing you need is MORE stuff immediately and if you haven’t quite moved yet, remember, relocation will be cheaper. Once, all of your original belongings are settled then you can begin NESTING! You will also be able to better assess what you really need for your new baby!
5. Don’t Be a Hero
Please! Please! Please hire professional movers unless your husband is already a professional mover and you trust him to move even your most fragile of belongings by himself. I wish somebody would have told me this before I thought it would be a good idea to do any heavy lifting. I ended up getting a hernia and now have the worst back pain ever even in my early months. On top of, nausea, headaches, fatigue, and more, the last thing you need is a hernia or more back pain.
6. Listen To Your What Your Body Wants
As much as we think we can do anything, and we can, sometimes it’s best if we don’t. Don’t over exert yourself, listen to your body. If you are feeling tired, go to sleep! You should sleep at least 8 hours a day, you are growing another human inside of you. And that’s not just my recommendation that is the Mayo Clinics too paraphrased in my more enthused words. In a brand new city, you probably have even more tasks to do and things on your plate but you have to avoid pushing yourself to much. I promise, some things can wait.
7. Be Realistic and Communicate
Being in a brand new city and expecting a baby are not going to be easy and you don’t have to carry the difficulties alone. I know that we all want to be independent and for everyone to know it too but it is okay to ask for help and know your limitations. I am still having a really hard time with this as I hate asking for help. I pride myself on being able to do everything on my own but honestly sometimes you don’t have to. If you are one of those people who do have family and friends that would help if you asked, please do as some people are not as fortunate. Communication is also key, it’s important to communicate with your family and your spouse about your emotions, what’s going on, and things you may need help with. Communication with your significant other I believe is the most important because you will need to come up with plans to prepare for your new baby and you might have different expectations that you need to discuss and get on one accord. My husband isn’t a talker and I could debate, talk, and plan for hours on end (I’m a Virgo), but honestly it helps to hash everything out and prepare yourselves for what’s to come. I mean c’mon, you have to get used to a new city and you’re expecting a new baby. It’s not going to be all peaches and cream.
8. Make Time For Romance
One of the things I learned about that I had no idea existed was a BABYMOON! I know you are probably thinking, I have so many things to do and so much to pay for already for this move, I can’t take a vacation. However, a babymoon can be for a short weekend and it doesn’t have to be expensive. My husband is a resident for heaven’s sake and he’s made time to take a weekend road trip to our hometown Chicago to see Hamilton on Broadway. A babymoon is basically just you or you and a significant other taking time out for yourselves to relax and enjoy the expectancy of the baby and not the stress of the baby. And when you have just moved to a new city, any break helps. It’s also great for the guys too because they also need a break, they aren’t necessarily carrying the baby, but they worry about you and the baby too. Not only that, but pregnancy can be lonely and dull for men sometimes too because they don’t get the “oo’s” and “aah’s” from family and strangers and they aren’t as close to the experience as you with your baby literally growing inside of you. Men are babies, okay.
I hope that the aforementioned is valuable and that you did not read all of this to be even more stressed! Relax, you truly have a miracle on the way, but prepare. You can move while pregnant and not go crazy and you can live in a brand new city and not feel horribly homesick. Personally, pregnancy has been tasking, emotional, and sometimes a bit lonely but it’s also been beautiful and exhilarating. Honestly, I love it, expecting this miracle to come is fun within itself. Once you finally get settled, trust me it gets better and the NESTING isn’t a chore, it’s exciting.